Sibling kinship care is when an older brother or sister steps in to care for a younger sibling when their parents are unable to do so. This can happen after difficult and often traumatic experiences such as bereavement, imprisonment, family breakdown, substance misuse, domestic abuse, or neglect. 

 

Although sibling kinship care is often overlooked, research shows it is a significant part of kinship care in the UK. Many children are being raised by older siblings, and this number is likely much higher today as more children enter the care system and the need for foster placements continues to grow.

 

The challenges sibling carers face

Becoming a carer for a younger sibling is a huge responsibility, especially when it happens suddenly and without warning. Many sibling carers take on this role while still young themselves, often with little or no parenting experience.

 

They may face serious difficulties, including:

> financial hardship

> risk of homelessness

> pressure on education or employment

> stress in personal relationships

> lack of understanding or support from services

 

Some sibling carers also feel dismissed by professionals, particularly because services are often designed with grandparents or older carers in mind. As a result, younger carers may not always be taken seriously or receive the support they need.

 

Living with grief and trauma

Sibling kinship care often begins in the context of loss, abuse, or family conflict. Many carers and children are coping with shared grief, trauma, and uncertainty. These experiences can affect mental health and make caring even more challenging.

 

Despite this, sibling carers often show remarkable strength and commitment to keeping their family together.

 

Poverty and disadvantage

Many sibling carers reduce or give up education and work in order to care for their brother or sister. This can leave them with very limited income and make them heavily reliant on welfare benefits.

 

Families in sibling kinship care are also more likely to live in deprived areas and face multiple disadvantages. Navigating the benefits system and accessing support can be confusing, especially when carers feel embarrassed, misunderstood, or unsure of their entitlements.

 

Barriers to support

Most sibling kinship care arrangements are informal and not made through social services. This means many carers do not qualify for the financial support available to approved foster carers.

 

To become an approved foster carer, a sibling carer must usually go through a detailed assessment process, including checks on their background, health, and finances. Because many sibling carers step in during crisis, they may not be in a position to complete this process successfully at the time they take on caring responsibilities.

 

Even when help is needed, some sibling carers are reluctant to ask for support for fear of being judged as unsuitable. Sadly, this can leave them feeling isolated at the very time they need help most.

 

Why this matters

Sibling kinship carers make extraordinary sacrifices to protect and care for their younger brothers and sisters. They deserve recognition, understanding, and practical support so they can continue providing safety, stability, and love.